The Garden and The List

9 Jun


When we initially began planning our wedding, Mr. Tresvant* and I happened upon a small and beautiful community garden.  We sat there and soaked it in, took pictures and video clips, and envisioned our intimate garden wedding full of butterflies, chirping birds, trellises and gazebos, sunshine, and oh…say fifty of our closest family and friends.  Even the name of the garden was inspiring- the Garden of Hope was *the* spot for us!  Shortly after that we began composing our lists of special guests and we *EACH* had over fifty and counting.  Goodbye small wedding, hello big family affair!   I don’t even know what we were thinking because only one orbit out of our immediate families was definitely over fifty.  If you are in Brooklyn though, our dreamy-haze wedding can be yours.  The site fee is only $45.  Think about it.  If you do it, please send me a picture to drool over.  

Don’t fret for us though because we will have our garden wedding and 100 (and counting?) of our closest friends and family to celebrate with us.   The only problem is that my list alone has over 100 people on it.  This has got to be one of the hardest parts of planning a wedding.  Every day I look at this list and beat myself up thinking about who can come, who I should invite, who would be upset with me, who should get to bring a date, and it’s driving me crazy! 

Let me also add that my very excited sister is throwing me a bridal shower and needs to send out invites soon but I cannot give her names yet.  If you’re invited to the shower, you have to be invited to the wedding and right now, I can’t even say who is invited.  Oh gosh, this post is taking a tone that I don’t want it to take but this really is something that’s weighing heavily on my mind right now and this blog is my dumping ground. 

This isn’t the greatest first post…lol…I could definitely use some advice though.  How did you tackle your list?

*That’s my boo’s new blog name…ya like it?  We can stand the rain, he’s got sensitivity, he’s a stone cold gentleman with rizz wa faire, we’re lost in love planning our once in a lifetime groove and it’s going down!  FYI, I’m mad corny…get used to this if you plan on sticking around.


6 Responses to “The Garden and The List”

  1. Deluge June 10, 2010 at 12:37 pm #

    damn that spot is nice.
    alas i have the same problem as you.

    • damali June 10, 2010 at 2:51 pm #

      I dealt with this as well and the only piece of advice I would give is people will understand. Everyone knows you’re not rich and can’t afford to party with literally everyone you know. And anyone who really gives you attitude because they weren’t invited, aren’t really thinking about you and your happiness on your day. So invite who you can and the rest will take care of itself.

  2. Renners June 10, 2010 at 3:03 pm #

    I do NOT envy you in the least as far as the invitees go. As duly noted in Rashad’s blog, virtually ZERO extended family beyond our parents and siblings are going to be invited so rather than have just a few people fall our of favor and bad talk me, the whole family can get in on the action:)

    Good luck w/ALL that:)

    • stillblushingbride June 10, 2010 at 7:27 pm #

      Don’t get me wrong, I *WANT* most of these people there. I just have to figure out a way to make it happen if I can.

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